1. Dear Robbyne,
I have a co-worker who for all intents and purposes is a nice girl. BUT…she goes on and on about her problems. She hangs around my desk at work whining. She asks for advice that she doesn’t take. I feel drained and resentful of the time she takes out of my day. I don’t want to be rude because I have to work with her. But I’m tired of the negative energy.
– Drained, NYC

• Dear Drained,
If this bitch is spending so much time at your desk whining when does she find the time to work? I feel your pain. I don’t like being around negative energy. It leaves you feeling so low and I hate when motherfuckers fuck with my happiness. You are going to have to be straight with Miss Thing and tell her that you don’t want to hear the whining anymore. Tell the bitch she’s draining your energy and time. You’re getting paid to perform a job not be her therapist (It sounds like she may need one). Don’t beat around the bush with her. Sometimes you have to be straight up with people. Trust me girl, you’ll feel better once you do.

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2. Dear Robbyne,
My older sister is killing me financially. She’s been down on her luck for some time now and she recently moved in with me. She couldn’t make her rent. She married very young and never really learned how to survive on her own. She’s been divorced for several years and received no alimony. She wants to be an actress but doesn’t seem very diligent about that. Since she has no real job skills she can only find low paying temp work. When I had a 6-figure income I used to give her money every week. Now I’m trying to survive with half that salary. I want to help my sister but I can’t take the pressure of trying to support us both. I don’t know what to do.
- Broke in Philadelphia
• Dear Broke,
It’s people like your sister who make me grateful to be an only child. You have to realize that she is your sister, not your child. I understand you want to help her out but as an adult she needs to take responsibility for her own life. We all have dreams. If she wants to be an actress she should pursue that path. But she can’t expect you to subsidize her shit when you’re trying to survive yourself. Sometimes you have to try a little tough love. Tell her that you are not in a position to give her money anymore. Let her know that the gravy train is out of service. Take her by her hand and sit down with her and assess her skills. If she doesn’t have any she can get work as a waitress, babysitter, home attendant or a sales clerk until she gets on her feet. If all else fails the bitch can go shake her ass around a pole at a strip club. Too often people have too much pride to put in a hard days work and get dirt on their hands. But stick to your guns. If you take away the crutches she’ll have to learn to walk.

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3. Dear Robbyne,
I have a friend who’s been seeing a married man. She’s been dating him for about 3 months. My friend says that he’s thinking of leaving his wife for her. His wife is nine months pregnant. My ex cheated on me when I was pregnant and I know that pain and sympathize with this man’s wife. I also don’t want to see my friend get hurt. How can I tell my friend I think she’s wrong without hurting her feelings?
– Concerned Friend, Chicago


• Dear Concerned,
This is a big mess! Did your friend know that this man was married with a pregnant wife when she started fucking him? If she did she’s dead wrong. There are enough dicks out there for her to find without breaking up a family. This man is obviously a piece of shit and if your friend had any sense she wouldn’t want him if he did leave his wife. Nine times out of ten he wouldn’t be faithful to her either. Sometimes in life you do fall in love with people and the circumstances are anything but perfect. But the fact that he’s willing to walk out on his wife when she about to give birth says a lot about him. My advice to you is to let the chips fall. Don’t interfere. It’s hard to tell somebody about their man particularly if they haven’t asked for your input. I’ve seen bitches flip on friends and family who have tried to tell them about their men. Just be careful with your man around her. If the bitch is a true ho, watch out. These bitches are never loyal.

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4. Dear Robbyne,
My sister recently lost weight. She went from a size 16 to a size 10. I’m a size 14 and have been overweight all my life. I’ve grown to accept my size. Since my sister has lost weight she’s been putting me down in public and telling me I need to lose weight. I’m proud of her for losing the weight but that doesn’t give her the right to criticize me. This really has me upset. My husband tells me I should just ignore her. But I want her to stop embarrassing me in public.
– Big Girl with the blues in the Bronx


• Dear Big Girl,
I’m a big girl myself and proud of it (Size 14). Your sister is as wrong as two left shoes. If you’re happy with your body and your man likes it I don’t think your sister should have anything to say. I don’t agree with your husband. You need to confront your sister about how you feel. Don’t suffer in silence. You’ll only end up with an ulcer. Let her know that you want the comments about your weight to stop. Be polite but firm. If she continues to put you down after your warning you may need to rip her a new asshole. Don’t Hesitate!

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